- How To Replace Fear With Hope When You Are Trying To Get Pregnant
- Tips For Sleeping Peacefully During Infertility
- Enjoy Romance, Passion, And Sex On Valentines Day And Calm The Frustrations Of Infertility
- Best Lubricants When Trying To Conceive
- OVERCOMING Infertility – A Symposium On Ways to Become A Parent
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Most women I talk with who are going through infertility have difficulty sleeping at least three nights per week. Sleep is so vital to our physical and mental health, and there are many things you can do to prepare for a good night’s sleep. I want to share some tips which can help you improve your sleeping patterns, fall asleep easily, and stay asleep.
Decrease your caffeine intake. Caffeine disrupts your natural sleep cycle. If you consume caffeine during the second half of the day, it is an even bigger obstacle to deep sleep during the night.
Avoid naps during the day until your sleep patterns are stable. If you still need a nap during the day, a 20 minute nap is optimal to re-energize.
Dim the lights in your home as the sun goes down. This signals to your mind that it is time to wind down and transition from your active day into a more relaxing evening. As the sun sets, the pineal gland is able to sense the change in light transmitted through your eyes, and it begins to secrete a hormone, melatonin, to prepare your body for sleep. While eating dinner, light candles and dim your lights. This is not only romantic, it’s also very relaxing.
Although we live in a high-tech world today, it is important to turn off all of your electronic devices for at least one hour before going to bed. These devices are stimulating to the mind and significantly impair the secretion of melatonin due to the strong light they emit. Definitely avoid getting on infertility chat rooms in the evening which can trigger anxiety and worry.
Once you’ve turned off all of your electronics, or do a calming activity such as a gentle yoga practice. Light a candle or incense in your bedroom using scents such as lavender or vanilla that have a very calming and grounding effect. Your brain associates certain scents and aromas with relaxation. If you enjoy taking warm baths, it’s a good idea to do this before going to bed.
Drink a cup of organic milk. Once the milk boils, add a pinch of cardamom, nutmeg and/or cinnamon. Let it cool and add some honey. This drink could help with insomnia. If you are lactose intolerant, use lactose-free milk or a bedtime tea which contains chamomile, valerian or lemon balm.
Practicing alternate nostril breathing at bedtime is a cleansing breath that calms the nervous system and clears and steadies the mind. This is how alternate nostril breathing is done:
Use your right hand to close your nostrils. Tuck your index and middle finger into your nose. Place the thumb by your right nostril and your ring and little fingers by your left nostril.
· Inhale through the left nostril, closing the right nostril with the thumb, and take a long inhalation breath.
· Hold the breath while keeping the nostrils closed for a few seconds.
· Exhale through the right nostril, closing the left nostril with the ring and little fingers, and take a long exhalation.
· Inhale through the right nostril, keeping the left nostril closed with the ring and little fingers and take a long inhalation.
· Hold the breath, closing both nostrils, for several seconds.
· Exhale through the left nostril, keeping the right nostril closed with the thumb, and take a long exhalation.
This is one round of alternate nostril breathing, and I recommend you practice 5 – 10 rounds. It will help you relax your body and mind.
Infertility can be stressful, but getting good nights sleep can ease the stress of infertility and improve your overall health and well being.
Happy Valentines Day! This is a perfect day to celebrate and be grateful for your wonderful partner. What if you celebrated your relationship not just today…but every day? If your sex life has decreased during infertility treatment, you are not alone. Why should you settle for an infrequent or unfulfilling sexual relationship with your partner? You deserve better.
During the past twenty-two years, I have specialized in counseling individuals, couples and groups who are experiencing infertility. I talk with couples openly and intimately about how their sex life is affected during infertility treatments, and I have never heard a couple say their sex life improved during treatment. Instead, their sexual activity ranges form ‘about the same” to “non-existent”.
Couples often report that they are uncomfortable discussing these issues with their doctor because they feel too vulnerable and embarrassed. These feelings can be exacerbated if a couple is already experiencing feelings of shame or embarrassment about being diagnosed as infertile.
The mental, emotional, and physical experiences of infertility can have a negative impact on your sexual desire and sexual performance. Hormonal fluctuations affect your sexual interest and arousal. Normal sexual activity is interrupted during diagnostic testing and treatment. You may find your sexual desire decreasing as the focus of sex shifts from pleasure to becoming pregnant. Couples often lose interest in sex except during the middle of a woman’s menstrual cycle each month when she is most likely to become pregnant. Knowing there is a one or two day window of time each month when a sperm can fertilize an egg is stressful and puts pressure on a couple to have intercourse whether they feel like it or not.
Couples want to stay connected during infertility. They want to please each other, and they need to create ways to keep their romance and passion alive. In order for this to happen, it is important to communicate to your partner the physical and sexual feelings and responses that you are experiencing during infertility. It’s best to have these conversations when you are both feeling rested and calm, not when you are feeling stressed or exhausted.
Both men and women want to feel special, loved and desired. Remember that sex is not just physical; it is also a mental and emotional experience. Flirt with each other, give surprise gifts and express your love in non-verbal ways. You can send cards or e-mails to stimulate sexual interest. When someone says they want to feel “loved” what they are often seeking from a partner is attention, which is being fully present when you are talking, listening or spending time together.
There is an exchange of energy which seems to magically occur during physical touch that leaves couples feeling more connected to one another. Take time to touch each other often throughout the day. Take time to look at each other in loving ways. Take time to say kind words. Remember what first attracted you to each other and remember why you chose to spend your lives together. If you make it a priority to nurture your physical relationship, you may find that some of the frustrations of infertility became calmer and less important. Today and each day for the rest of your lives, create ways to stay close and connected. This enables you to find comfort and peace during the journey of building your family together.
Have you ever wondered if your lubricant could be interfering with pregnancy? This is a great article with all the information you need to know.
Reuters Health Information
Study Warns Some Lubricants Could Block Conception
By Ronnie Cohen
February 05, 2014
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) – Couples trying to conceive may want to avoid some common sexual lubricants, which a new study says can harm sperm and reduce the chances of pregnancy.